We Are Not Made For Individualism

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We are created to living in communion; this means that we are made to live in a community. Our society speaks about the community in vague ideas and platitudes, but only as a means to organize, not for building relationships and fulfillment.

Even as “community” is a rallying call for all manner of social actions and organization, our society aggressively seeks convenience. And convenience allows us to be alone.

Shifting supply chains outsource commonplace transactions to isolated drop-offs.

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And Arguing Ideas Is Vital To Our Society

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Our public square for debate and ideas is increasingly problematic. In years past, politicians, pundits, and parties reached a greater consensus about American society’s ideals and principles. They achieved this agreement while disagreeing on the application and implementation of those principles.

That is a crucial point: agree on principles, debate their application.

Suppose individuals, groups, and political parties can agree on shared principles. In that case, their application becomes the shared work, not a scorched earth conquest for power that we’ve seen in for the last several decades.

Behind the anger, censorship, and ‘cancel’ culture is a foundational problem:

We…


30 Years Later I Remember It Clearly

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The funny thing is: it’s the small things we remember. The big milestones, celebrations, and goals that we have in life are fun and exciting, but our impactful, personal memories come from ordinary events.

Many of my memories of growing up consist of riding in various cars or trucks. We drove everywhere, and many of the vehicles barely had a tape deck. There were no personal digital devices; it was the radio or talking. And Dad would talk all the time.

The talk was about anything and everything. Topics could be mundane or profound: what he had been reading, the…


Strengthening Ourselves To Reduce Stress

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Stress gets a bad rap, and deservedly so. Most of the stress we experience in our lives is immensely counterproductive. It’s distracting, limiting, and usually leads us to make bone-head decisions. Stress clouds our judgment and muddles our interactions. It tends to take over, become pervasive and all-consuming.

Much of the stress in our lives is rooted in impatience. We want things to happen immediately and get frustrated by delays. We want to see change and results right now, and become discouraged by the effort change requires. …


The People In Your Life Are Not An Accident

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Families are rough. A whole mess of individuals with different goals, personalities, and habits all living with each other. Families are tough in the best of times, and our modern society’s perspective on families does not make it any easier.

We diminish the value of family in favor of the individual. We urge people to prioritize themselves above all else. Political activist groups even openly campaign that the nuclear family is an antiquated and harmful idea. But these ideas and perspectives are both unrealistic and destructive.

We don’t “do life” alone. Most of us have immediate families that we are…


How A Mother’s Love Cured Her Son’s OCD

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At the age of twelve, Beth Maloney’s son, Sammy, underwent a rapid transformation. This change was not a pre-teen growth spurt or onset of puberty hormones: he became an entirely different person. A smart, energetic young man who loved his family, science, and math became a person seemingly possessed.

He would only enter his house from a specific door. He would jump, jerk, and twirl as he walked, avoiding obstacles that only he could see. He refused to touch anything with his bare hands. He screamed, raged, and sobbed uncontrollably. …


Why Working Is Vital For Mental Health

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Work gets a bad rap. We treat it as if it’s a terrible distraction from what we want to be doing. Grudgingly and grumbling, we daily head off to the office, job site, or factory floor. We gripe about how much time work takes up in our lives, how it never seems to end, and how (many days) it looks like it’s more stress than it’s worth. It’d be better to be on a boat, relaxing on the lake. …


You’re Teaching Them About Life

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Our household has been interested in personal finance for years. What started as an aggressive journey to eliminate student debt has morphed into an ongoing focus and priority surrounding money. Over the years, with deliberate budgeting and careful planning, we’ve gotten in the habit and mindset of living below our means each month. We put artificial constraints on spending our money.

Are there purchases and items that we’d like to have? Absolutely. (A boat, if anyone is making a list) Could we have many of those items if we chose? Likely. But we don’t make those purchases, and we do…


Tell Others Why They Matter

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Gratitude is such a valuable thing. There are many things which are gifts that we give ourselves: integrity, honor, etc. Gratitude is also on that list. Others cannot make us grateful, and others cannot make us say “Thank You” for the experiences, relationships, or things we have in our life. To be grateful is to live with a sense of humility for the blessings we have in our lives, both large and small.

Each New Year’s, Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg is known for making a public resolution for a personal goal or habit he will tackle in the upcoming year…


They need your wisdom.

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I’ve written previously about slowing your life down, eschewing the frantic pace presented to us, and living deliberately. Time and space are needed for proper reflection and crafting our knowledge and experiences into wisdom. Living more slowly provides us with breathing space to understand what kind of life we want to live.

Striving to live deliberately becomes even more pressing if one has children. Now there is not your character, priorities, and goals to attend to, but your kid’s. You’re concerned about the people they will become, how their experiences will turn out, and what they might accomplish. …

Frederick Johnston

Lifelong writer and researcher, often can be found at FJWriting.com, pursuing a life well lived

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